I'm not 100% content with my male gender so its necessary to flip on a regular basis. It makes me feel better, puts a smile on my face and seems right. I've given up trying to question it these days and just go with it. An itch that needs scratching or a glass of pure spring water on a hot day. Its just something I do and i,'m better for it.

I would have to say I dress because it just feels right, simple as that.

Crimson xx

I was always leaning towards dressing and I guess I got sick of trying to talk my girlfriends etc into wearing stockings and corsets and everything fem that I finally gave up and dressed myself in everything I loved

What stands out for me? Is, I am my own girlfriend. I have to have a mirror to pose in front of. It's like seeing this other person and experiencing their perspective. I experience the sensuality and ocwardness. It's thrilling and can escalate.

I dress as a girl because from a young age I thought I should have been born a girl so dressing helps me stay sane and feel sexy xxx

I dress because i feel most comfortable as my Female self.I have always felt more female than male,and adore make up and clothes looking good and Its always been a very prominent and very important part of my life, Alexis,Antonia xx

Now there's a can of worms!!!!!

I started when I was 5/6years old so why I started is lost in the mists of time..........

I'm happier, less stressed, more relaxed and more open when I'm dressed............
This post was edited by Rachael Louise Blanche at September 4, 2013 4:33 PM BST

Hi all

I think there are lots of reasons people dress. Personally I feel far more comfortable in my female self than as my male self. It is much more fun, relaxing and I love all the things that go with it. I often wonder if I want more than dressing as I don't like lots of things about my male self.

I have always got along better with women and prefer being around women and their discussions as they are usually much more interesting than men's.

If I could rewrite my gender I would definitely of wanted to be a girl.

Beck xxx

Why do I dress?
That is a question I have asked myself since the age of 8 and never really come to a conclusion.
So i just continue to dress and no longer try to understand why. I am to old to worry now or to even care anymore.
All I will say is long may it last.
Veronica x x x

Hi there,
Gosh some of our stories are so similar, I was 9 when I first began to dress, however I have a vague memory of my elder sister dressing my brother and me as girls before then. Not that I blame her or anything, in fact I thank herFor me it's a huge sense of relief to dress, the clothes are so so lovely, the make up, having my hair done all wonderful. Though I do enjoy being blokey too, so having the best of both worlds it's a win win !!!

Why to I dress, well firstly I just can't help myself and secondly i'm just me!!!!!!!!!!

Simple answer . I dress because I enjoy it , makes me feel good xx .

Ive not got a single easy answer to this because my reasons have changed so much in the last 18 years.
When I first dressed, it was very much a thrill, usually ended in some form of sexual release. This went on for a number of years.
However, I've found that the more clothes I buy, the more I try extra hard with my makeup, the less and less I find it a sexual experience.
As things are today, I dress to feel good, to give my ego a boost (I can look alright when I try hard), and yeah, there's some compliment fishing going on.
But to be honest, I spent 2 hours on my clothes and makeup, youre damn right I want people to tell me I look nice
As for sex? Well I kind of just think that If I get horny while dressed, then I was probably gonna get horny if I was in drab , so the clothes make no difference.

Ill compliment you Samantha! - you look great

Im pretty much the same history wise with as you. Over the years, the more time i spend getting Jaquified its become less of a thrill thing and more of an overall fun, actually this is me thing to do - plus of course look at ME other people please ego boost that you don't get in drab thing! (ill complement fish as well:)

Also always find it amazing how much getting Jaquified (thats defo a new word (c) me!) completely clears my head of everything else - id dread to see my eye makeup if it didn't.

If i played it, I imagine golf may do the same but with less glitter....:)

Like lots of people I statrted young, but then as a kid I always liked dressing up games. one day a spaceman, one day an army soldier,or a cowboy or whatever. So It wasn't exclusively about girly things. I just loved turning myself into someone else. Then I realised I quite like turning myself into something pretty sometimes too, as I got older, substitue pretty for sexy. But on balance its dressing up fun with added thrills in that I'm challenging the straights, (even if only in the mirror) I quite like the fact that only a very few close to me know. I get a bizarre thrill out of knowing that most don't have a clue about Jade. After years of hiding then being more open then questioning my sexuality I'm pretty sure I'm not transexual as I've never felt I was in the wrong body, rather I like to transform the one I have. With my gender crossing its also about appreciating feminine beauty and loving it. Not just by desiring it on others but experiencing it myself. In a way I think I'm more of a man than most because I've allowed myself to experience life from different viewpoints and I get as much pleasure from getting dressed in my vintage motoircycle gear and tearing it up on loud old school bikes as I do in picking out some gorgeous lingerie and spending hours just primping and pampering myself. Funny old mix me. Sexuality? I'm basicaly straight. I love pretty sexy things on me or others. Though I have the odd moment of bisexuality where I'd love to really transform this body by allowing it to be enjoyed by masculine person. But I've no great desire to form relationships with men. Its just a fleeting fantasy or a bit of fun. life is way to serious. You get only one and I like to experience as much as I can from all sides of the gender fence (as long as I don't hurt anyone or get hurt) my Dressing? Its art, sexuality, an expression of the whole me, an appreciation of feminine beauty, a way to create something delicious, and a lot of fun. The Only real sadness? I grew up in a time where giving free expression to all that would have cost me everything else I loved. Where I and others were sen as comedy, or worse, with hatred and incomprehension. i'm glad that the internet gave us a place to meet and express ourselves and I'm pleased that despite continuing prejudice and hatred younger people are slowly finding it a bit easier to show the world their true selves whether that be they are transexual, transgender or infact whatever they are. The times they are a changin but not fast enough.


Phew...........lol
This post was edited by Jade inside at November 13, 2013 12:58 PM GMT

What a great post Jade - thanks for sharing your experiences with all of us. Pauline xxx

I dress to escape the pressures of living as a male ( whatever that is ) and to become more completely myself. I have never been able to fit in to male society , but have no illusions that I would be accepted wholeheartedly into female society no matter what some well-meaning rg's would say.
I think the biggest problem for all of us t-girls is not so much trying to fit into a role defined exclusively by biology but more due to the subliminal recognition that the world ( out there )simply isn't us. By( out there )I am referring to the world of labels ,definitions and compartmentalism that at a deeper level we are all acknowledging is a world of total falsehood.
The external world around us is a politically-shaped convenience organised in such a way by the ruling elite to avoid their being faced to confront their own sense of the numinous.
What we represent to the outside world is their deepest fear, the fear of the unknown. They confront us to avoid confronting the barren wasteland that has replaced the spiritual dimension in their own lives .
Looking at us and denigrating what they see gives them the perfect excuse to avoid looking at themselves in the mirror and being horrified at the realisation of what modern society has persuaded them to become-hollow , empty shells, devoid of the true empathy and compassion that are essential prerequsites for the establishment of a genuine civilisation and not the pseudo-civilisation they have built aound us.
It should be clear that I have a spiritual dimension in my life. I don't expect everyone here to understand or emphasise , I am merely presenting another perspective.
From an early age I was considered fey because I was always looking for answers. Being transgender has in the past hindered that but as I have grown older and more introspective it has enhanced my sense of spiritual identity.
There is a word in Hebrew termed the Shekinah ( Sakinah in Arabian ) which means the indwelling and signifies the feminine aspect of the Holy Ghost or Divine Unmanifest.
I believe this is the subliminal motivation of many who dress, it is a quest to know themselves more fully and in doing so serve mankind and therefore "God "more fully also.
This is a deep subject and is something I am intending to cover in a book I am writing on another subject , that of Lucid Dreaming, so I will have to leave it at that for now.
The immediate rewards I receive from dressing is a feeling of relaxation,completeness and surety of purpose resulting from both my dressing and using my dressing as a means of enhancing my awareness of self.
I hope all this hasn't put anyone off or made you fall asleep.
Shalom!

p.s. I don't think I quite made it clear that the Shekinah equates with the animus in Jungian psychology and that from this perspective transgender people are attempting to integrate the feminine and masculine, anima & animus within their own psyche. From this it should be obvious that t-girls are far more sane than so-called normal people.
This post was edited by Deleted Member at November 22, 2013 10:52 AM GMT

I dress because its who I am

I started dressing as a form of masturbation. This has never left me.
I love the shemale concept -breasts and hard on.
I love my feminine self though and have had the pleasure of sucking and fucking another tgirl.
My feminine side is taking over, but I daren't reveal myself to the rest of the my friends yet

Because I am human.

I read something, and it said that "Sight" is our.... dominant sense, I disagree, there is a graphic where the human body is shown with all the touch receptors enlarged, so you get really huge hands on this thing.

As apes, we have lost a lot of our body hair, Desmond Morris is a great read, "The naked ape"

Touch is our dominant sense and dressing involves touch.

Any human that doesn't like experimenting with fashion/style/clothes would just be odd and weird.

All that aside, I gotta say, I feel much happier presenting as female.

To compensate for everything I don't have and can't get in ordinary life. I barely even view myself on the TV/TG spectrum but more as a performer, playing a role in a real-life interactive environment - a walking, breathing fantasy given life and validity by interaction with the real world.

I dress because I love the clothes, the feel, the look (on and off the hanger).

I love the heels, feeling slender. I love having hair again, I had beautiful hair when I was younger and damn you testosterone you took it away.

I love makeup, putting it on, trying to get it right, and trying new things.

I love feeling and allowing the other part of me to feel, the female part that is always there, always looking at women, almost jealously, as they wear the beautiful things they wear.

I love being a woman, for those brief moments, minutes, hours when tuck up my balls and almost, so very closely allow then female part to dominate.

Friends I've shared my dressing with say I change when I dress, become more feminine, carry myself differently, interact differently.

I would have to admit thats how I feel and I'm almost pleased that there are differences, there are aspects of me that don't fit being male and revel in the hours I let them out into the world.

In all this though I am scared too, scared of not being passable, scared of being picked out as soon as I step out, taking this pleasure, this happiness away I feel away from me. So I limit myself to minor excursions so I in no way risk losing it. I am getting braver though, the “she” in me is getting bolder.

Of the real girls I've told, long time friends, they are so excited, eager to take me out, it’s just my fear holding me back.

Soon I will tip and believe in myself as a girl or a boy, as someone on here said I wear the clothes I want to, society has it wrong.

A
This post was edited by Deleted Member at October 29, 2014 3:32 PM GMT

I do it not because I like it, not because I can, but because I have a driving need. I have no choice, I have to do it. x x

why do i dress ? why do i breath ? because i do , its who i'am x just don't have to have a reason to be you as long as you are true to yourself and walk with only kind and gentle steps x do we question every time we see women wearing shirt and trousers x