Hi every one

sum thing that i constanty get asked is why do i dress like a girl when your a
man and a manly man at that and sean as iv not realy got an answer for them
i just say and it works 99% of the time

" if you can give me a reason why you where wat your whereing other than
im a girl/boy and theas are wat girl/boys where then i will give you my
answer"

so wat are the reason why you dress??

That's a hard question to answer!

I know that when I'm dressed I am far happier than when I'm not. I see my life as a series of roles: daddy, hubby, worker, friend. When I take off the roles, I'm left with Debbie.

Dressing is a major part of expressing that.

A long time ago, I came to the realisation that I was handed the wrong gendered body by the midwives. They couldn't help it, they were busy.

Oh, and I look bloody brilliant. pmsl.

Debbie

I'll second that Debbie. You do look bloody brilliant. x

I dress so as not to frighten the natives. Me naked?!! Not a pretty sight.

Why would you not want to dress in all these fabulous clothes ! Soft, sheer, shiny, silky ! feels wonderfull to beable to wear nice clothes out! If only blokey clothes were as nicex

This is a tricky one to which I dont think there is no actual answer, well if there is I haven't found it and I have been dressing since I was 9. I did spend 2-3 years in therapy, in the late 90s, and my main reason was to find out why I like dressing and being a Tgirl.

I never did find that out...and I still don't know why. And thgse days I don't care. Much more importantly I did find out that if you are happy with yourself as a person and enjoy being Pauline,,Caroline ...or whoever then why not.

Yes some people may think we are weird, but if we are not harming anyone and having fun being Liz, Debbie, or Megan then its better to enjoy it all.

hugs

Pauline xxx

I say the vast majority of us dress cos we feel better in the fem mode ,i sure do .Ive dressed myself also since 9 , i took time out and tried hard not to do it but the urge or need never faded ,in fact it has got stronger over the years. .
How ever the fact is i feel a dam good and happy when i am out of drab male clothes and i have given up fighting against it a long time ago ,i can never find a reason why. i just have a need to do or want to,its what make me feel happy and that is enough for me no need anymore to search the question of ''why'' .

Shaz .x

Hard and not for me...

Never felt %100 as a guy... always having a preference for the more female side of things... always wanted long hair as a kid, always got told It's not normal blah blah...

Then anyway, here I am end of 2012, and let my self become my self, and haven't been this happy ever since, If i had to be a bloke all the time, I'd be in a nut ward!

Nicely put Jen. Was really nice to meet you the other night, you looked great :-) xxx

Why do I dress?

In truth, I don't really have one definitive answer. I started at about aged 5 or 6 with my little sisters clothes and never really stopped. For what purpose? It has served many from as a form of disguise to just allowing me to feel and appear more feminine. So did I do it to feel feminine at age 5? I really couldn't say, I just can't remember. I am in therapy now and am picking through it all and can honestly say that I couldn't stop doing it , I have tried and managed a maximum of about two years!
If have to give answers they would be as follows;

Because I can, I doesn't hurt anyone.
Because, When challenged, I sometimes reply "because it fucks with your head".
Because it makes me feel good, happy.
I want to feel more feminine.
Because I want to be accepted as a woman (well its a nice idea).
Sometimes because I am unhappy with who I am.

Looking at the above, reading between the lines, you could say that maybe I'm a little selfish, confrontational, I am maybe trans, I am unhappy.....like I said, no definitive answer, but I will keep searching.
Stella xxx
This post was edited by Deleted Member at December 20, 2012 2:19 AM GMT

Why do i dress coz im a tranny lol xxx

no seriously im not sure really i always have since the age of 5 i remember the first time in may aunties bath room it felt so right and i was happy and have done it ever since and would be 24/7 if i could xxx

Nicely put Amy. I have a feeling that there won't be any firm answers here. We all seem to have different journeys, but different stories. I have realised that we are (or should be) here for each other, in support, but our journys are different! I feel priviliged to be part of this sort of messed up journey xxx
Wished I'd realised earlier, but no regrets.
Stella xxxx

aw im glad you are here now stella

and i will say it again (high school musical)
All together now

"We're All In This Together" xxxxx

I blame Sir Tim Berners Lee.

Why couldn't he have invented the internet in the 60s so that I hadn't felt like the only caramel penny in a box of Roses?

Lazy. That's what it is: Lazy.

Debbie

<blockquote><strong><a href="/se4/profile/Stella">Stella Galore</a> said:</strong><br />Nicely put Jen. Was really nice to meet you the other night, you looked great :-) xxx</blockquote><br />


Thanks Stella huggxx I finally have laptop Access, not just phone!

Well, I managed to get to be my self yesterday at The Gatehouse, and loved
it, then just sighed and teary when having become a guy, seriously, can't wwait till the new year, see the Doctor, and drop this on them, once I secure I my own place!

But the more I am as Jennifer, the happier I am, It's the only time I really do feel a !00% with my self, and so... Doctors talk it over new years! xx

Why do I dress.
Gave up years ago wondering why, but i do know that being dressed makes me much happier and content person. (Mrs Mandy says it also stops me being a grumpy oap lol )

My reasons for CDing are self-interestingly mixed. The ideal -- as sci-fi B-movie as it sounds -- would be a perfectly balanced gender identity -- i.e. I would possess both a male and female persona, and would choose which one I was based on the day's requirements, or whims, even. And the possession of that daily choice would be the norm, as we would all have that choice. Things could get tricky down the line, of course, if the female persona was biologically capable of giving birth.

Not sure where I'm going with this, but I'm sure it would make for an interesting movie one day.

I dress as­ i find it­ good fun,­ love the ­transforma­tion from ­boy to gir­l and the ­chance to ­dress in sexy clothe­s and high heel shoe­s. Shoppin­g as a gir­l is so mu­ch more fu­n and goin­g out to b­ars and cl­ubs is fun­ as a girl­ too.

I did an awful lot of research on this very question and there are apparently 400 reasons why, and the top 3 are...1, it turns me on,2, i like the feeling of the material, 3 i like to look in the morror. Hmm but iv yet to find my reason and its because i want to mirror image what i like to see and what turns me on. Hence the reason i think why a lot of gurls want the slutty look. Along with this im very in touch with my feme side and yes when i stand up in my heels its like a breath of fresh air and i feel sad when they have to come off.

I dress simply because it is truly the best expression of my reality of who I really am. Style of expression and truth in reality. Also when I am dressed a feeling of calmness comes over me, because Icouldn't be happier any other way. xo Kristine

Been thinking about this for some time. It comes down to the feeling I have when I'm dressed of being at one with myself and my world. I become calm and totally secure in myself. I don't have to even try to compete. When in drab I can touch this world when with others but when dressed it is all enveloping. Do I get tuned on when I dress, no unless I'm being chatted up.
I know something happens when I'm dressed as I have had a male friend tell me he could see this while taking my photos.

Why do I dress as a woman? For the same reason any woman does - it is the expression of my inner feminine self and soul. The inconvenience of not having a body that is congruent with this is something I want to change and I hope a certain GIC will help me with! All I can say is that presenting as a man makes me feel like a ghost - the body I'm in is not mine but by wrapping it in feminine clothes I can be alive and when I take them off I feel like something in me is dying.

Like the feel of the nylon and lacy and feel more like a person feminine and masculine
Only live once make the best of both world and I feel great when men look at me , can't wait for the next stage

For me it's just the way I feel most comfortable when I look at my reflection. I try to work out and stay fit but the only time I really appreciate the effort is when it means I can fit into something a little bit more slinky

Added to putting make up and a lovely soft wig on dressing makes me feel happy and free. I'm a much better person more patient more tolerant and accepting. But I didn't know that when I started my journey. I dress because of a need in me which was fuelled by having a full choice of clothes because I have two older sisters. It was easy to fulfill my need and once I tried it I could not stop. Not that I have ever really wanted to. Kelly xx