i have 3 children and they all know collette, i have been out with my eldest daughter, but she was 21 at the time, i think you should weigh up your options, would it be good for your daughter to go shopping with you, or would it be better to leave it for a later date? at such a tender age i would leave it until she was a bit older, i hope you find a solution for the both of you, and i must admit there has been some very good points raised here by the girls, well al the best and hope all goes well love collette XXX.

Hey Nicky,
Sorry for the late reply - busy weekend with the kids, only logged on quickly today.
I think you make some great points here about how we can positively shape our children through good example. And I certainly prefer the option of being very honest with my kids about this - and indeed anything that's to do with how they treat other people and accept those who are 'different'. But this is in part a direct REACTION to my parents who, though loving and caring, come from a generation that is (in the majority) much less able to accept 'difference' and which, in their case has that inherent sense of low-key racism I find distasteful.
It's not that they are bad people. But they are bigoted and anti- this and that. But it has shaped me by making me aware of it and not like it. So even the negative can be turned to a positive.

I still mean to chat to my daughter about the shopping trip, but it'll be a case of postponing for now.

Thanks for your input - much appreciated.

Em
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Hi Collette,

Although I think it would be great for both of us - and on many different levels - I agree that her tender age makes it prudent that I wait - for now.

But will let everyone know how we get on on our first girly shop together if and when it happens.

Em
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I know this is very late in coming but I have read the thread with interest and thought I could perhaps offer a suggestion for when/if you go girlie shopping with your kids. It was previously suggested that you go with a real girl. Good idea but ,if possible, how about going with a real girl and also a male friend who knows about your transgenderism?
I realise it's probably not very likely and i don't know your situation, but the male friend could be another T-girl prepared to make the ultimate sacrifice for a sister.
Anyway, it's just a thought.