I'm going shopping on Monday for some new lingerie, anyone know of some tv/cd friendly shops within 30 miles of Bournemouth. at the moment I buy most of my clothes online but also buy at Primark.

is this really a serious question???

Yes it is a serious question a lot of girls look for somewhere to buy their clothes and would like to go into shops and try stuff on. Do you have some kind of problem with me asking this question?

Forgive me if I sound annoyed but this person would be better helping rather than look down her nose at other people and talk down to them.
This post was edited by chloe hope at July 23, 2017 2:45 PM BST

its not 1870 you can go where you like

If you believe that's true then you are not living in the real world which reading your profile I can belive.

and I'm not looking down my nose at you, just appauled at this 'we cant go where we want, do what we want because we are trans' attitude. Its this type of mindset which holds the trans community back.
This post was edited by Mia Wallace at October 26, 2015 8:21 PM GMT

i know its true, which I suspect, by posting such a ridiculous topic, you dont because you haven't experienced life day to day as a trans woman
This post was edited by Mia Wallace at October 26, 2015 8:20 PM GMT

just go into any shop for goodness sake, they do not arrest you for buying female clothes

Its not a ridiculous question. Its a valid point. Not everyone is 'out' or transgender. Nothing wrong with being say a part time transvestite who dresses in private. Its a bit awkward to walk in to M&S and buy lingerie as a guy without feeling awkward!

why is it awkward?

Your own mind is making it awkward, buying clothes of any sex is absolutely fine

yes thats completely true. having looked at the OP's profile pics its all faceless crude tacky cheap lingerie shots. So I suspect6 shes off buying new wanking outfits. If thats the case then yes I can understand where the feeling of awkwardness comes from if he goes to a regular store. Maybe try a sex shop or something where they are used to that sort of person?

Never bothers me going out buying female stuff.
Mind you, I'm always dressed up when I do.
:P

Sorry but I always buy all my female clothing including underwear from ladies clothing/underwear shops, including shoes. To me it just feels normal & right & ifthey either know or guess, who cares, sometimes that even helps.
Just a shame my wife doesn't see it that way.....

About 16 months ago when I bought new breast forms I found they came up a bit bigger than expected and I needed to buy new bras. Always conscious that 80% of women wear the wrong size bra I decided to go for a bra fitting. I went to 3 different shops (and got 3 different results!!) and had absolutely no problems. In one (Evans) I overheard the staff arguing about it. I said I'd leave if I was causing problems and they no, they were fighting over who was going to do it because they all wanted to, none of them ever having measured up a man before. They ended up taking turns, each one coming into the cubicle to handle my incredibly realistic and very expensive 'Aphrodite' babies. We all had a good laugh and I now always call in to chat to them when out shopping. So my message to you, Chloe, is to get out in the high street and enjoy your shopping. And it will be much better value than TV/TG outfitters. x x

Padded sports bra + rolled-up legwarmer in each cup works perfectly for me P
And the fucker fits properly, too.
Best keep it simple, comrade.
(there're certainly no complaints from all the girls that insist on squeezing my tits when I go into town, that's for sure)....Heh.

This post was edited by Jamie Wallace at October 27, 2015 4:00 AM GMT

The only problem of shopping for yourself particularly if you are in male mode is the up-tight middle aged women who will push past you thinking you shouldn't be there. They are the same ones who buy their hubbies their clothes!
As for the shops, a lot of them are very happy to chat to a trans again in either mode. Just try chatting to the 16 year old Saturday assistant.

Just read the blog from MX Ashley is this the same poor little abused person that called me an OP that is only buying wanking outfits? bit two faced don't you think?

OP is Original Poster as DA is Dumb Ass

you missed out the bit about "only buying wanking outfits" that is the insult I was talking about, is insulting people that you don't know your only form of pleasure?
But back to my original question I asked this because I have some respect for other peoples feelings and would rather not inflict my choices on other that may feel uncomfortable about it. By the way before you even ask yes I have been out dressed on a few occasions and have met both acceptance and ridicule and I'm afraid he left with a bloody nose. and finally I did say within 30 miles of Bournemouth and I know High Wycombe is a lot further than that as I had the misfortune of living there once.,

Totally agree with Madame Sin, why not buy lingerie where women do - M&S, Debenhams etc. If you don't want to buy in a shop and know your sizes then you could buy on line - either through the catalogues or on Ebay. I really do not see what your problem is, and if you live in Bournemouth then imo there are very few places within 30 miles that would specialize in tv/cd friendly lingerie.

Maybe try googling? I found these links which are not shops but help groups - which I guess you don't need, but maybe they can help in finding you tv/cd friendly shops local to Bournemouth?

hugs

Pauline xxx
http://www.rainbowbournemouth.co.uk/map.htm
http://marketplace.transgenderzone.com/?page_id=104#.VjE5E9I19QI

Lingerie is the least stressful thing to buy because if they even care enough to think about it they will assume it's a gift for a lady. Trying other clothing on in a shop might be more stressful but you can buy that, try at home and return if it doesn't fit. You can always ask for a gift reciept at the counter if it takes away some embarrassment.
@Josephine - You don't need to be trans to incurr the wrath of those old bats, one tried to take me out at the sandwich isle in M&S with her trolley and I wasn't wearing one girly item. Plus, how do you know she's buying for her husband and not a clset dresser?

Sorry Pauline but did you actually read what I wrote? I did say it was about other people feeling uncomfortable I do go in shops and buy on line please read what has previously been written.
Thanks Rachel as least you seem to grasp some of the difficulties.

Chloe,

Yes I actually did read what you wrote - I don't have an IQ of 50 or less.

In my opinion you seem to have an ability to move the goalposts in a discussion- Until your last post you had not actually raised the issue of "other people feeling uncomfortable". That was totally new in your posts on this subject.

What I had tried to do in my first post above was to take into account all the comments on this thread and offer you constructive advice. It is interesting that you only took offence to my comments and Mx Ashleys.

My ex wife and her family have lived in the Bournemouth area for 30 years and I am familiar with the locality.There maybe tv friendly shops in the area (I am not aware of any) - which is why I gave you two links to potential leads (it really is NOT part of my role here to google for any member - new or otherwise - that was just a courtesy as you are very new here). Your response to my friendly email was unnecessarily antagonistic.

I am sorry to that you find my comments offensive - I will not be answering any of your posts in future, as clearly you don't actually want the help you require. It's a shame as several members here did give you positive advice on your request.

Pauline Smith (site administrator)