Ok...what would you do/think if your guy/girl told you they were out or asleep when you knew full well they were around and online?

They come online and say "Just got back from 'wherever,' going to grab a bite to eat and then have to go out again." All the while you can see them online somewhere they don't realise you can see them.

Fair enough its not a huge lie, but why do they feel they have to say that at all?

This pathetic lie undermines everything for me. Makes everything they say or have ever said questionable. If they can lie about something so pathetic it makes me wonder what else they're lying about.

Should I play them at their own game? Confront them? Bare in mind I have confronted them many times before when they've done similar things in the past. Or should I kick them to the kerb?

Yours Sincerely
Pissed Off

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This post was edited by Deleted Member at December 23, 2012 4:47 PM GMT

Sometimes i leave my comp switched on and may leave certain windows open ,not intensionally just force of habit which will show me online when actually i am elsewhere.Could be a reasonable explanation ,however if its not the case then if you've confronted them in the past its not going to sink in is it if you have a go at them again. x

He has sensitive things on his comp and knows better than to leave it on.

I have no problem with him talking with anyone else, or being on other forums/groups etc, but he does me.

I love him to bits, but he's pretty much tried to isolate me from everyone and if I did the same back he'd be furious and would probably hit out big time...or get shut of me. Now when he says 'I love you' my internal voice says 'yeah sure you do, you lying f**ker".

Kind of pissed off right now.

well i'm a lot older but no wiser i think that we all get stuck in that if i canfront him/her its only going to get all heated and frosty

from what i can see of you and how you look huni i would consider other options and yeah i know luv him to bits but it has work both ways so why not make new friends and play the game, once he see's other people paying you attention that he should be then maybe it will be a wakeup call if not then i think you know the the next move confidence to belive in yourself and be treated and you would treat others

xx

sorry about the typos IPad sucks sometimes lol

He has me by the heart and gets complacent. Thinks he can talk me round each and every time he does something to hurt or annoy me.

Getting to the end of my tether.

Thank you ladies for joining in and giving great advice.

Might be time for a few drinks for me.

:-)

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I agree with Sharon - You can appear to be online when you're not beause of that - However if you're SURE that this isn't the case and it's happened many times before and you've had a go at that person about it also many times before, then you have to question his/her integrity - You don't say, though, what the person's reaction was after confronting him/her about it - Did his/her explanation sound reasonable or did it sound hollow ?? - Again if this has become something of a habit, then I think you need to ask yourself frankly if the person concerned is worth your friendship and if you feel, finally, after analysing the situation realisically that it's not, then you should drop him/her and pass on to other things - other real friends - who you know you can trust - "Playing them at their own game" as you put it can lead to anguish and even self destructive paranoia depending on your feelings for this person - Is it this that's at the heart of your worry - your problem ? - a realisation that your feelings for him/her are not being reciprocated...??

I know he's online and yet claiming he's been out or was sleeping. I know he's opened my messages and then ignored them and gone on to post elsewhere.

I've made him a priority constantly.

I think I feel more for him than he obviously does for me. Hurts to say it out loud, but there you have it. He's just good with words and wins me over each and every time.

Adele
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I think Carole comments sum's it up hun, i know it sucks but you might be suprised as to what and who's out there dont try you'll never know xxx

He has sensitive things on his comp and knows better than to leave it on.

I have no problem with him talking with anyone else, or being on other forums/groups etc, but he does me.

I love him to bits, but he's pretty much tried to isolate me from everyone and if I did the same back he'd be furious and would probably hit out big time...or get shut of me. Now when he says 'I love you' my internal voice says 'yeah sure you do, you lying f**ker

Kind of pissed off right now.

Oh dear this isn't good at all - It breaks my heart to see you going through this and you shouldn't be - A relationship has to be 90% give on BOTH sides - And it isn't here cos you're making ALL the sacrifices - Why should you be isolated ?? - Why shouln't you have other friends outside your relationship ?? - This is all too one-sided, Adele, and I'm afraid it doesn't look good for the future - Sorry to sound so gloomy, but I'm seriously worried about you - Contact me privately if you want to - You know how - xx

Its easy for me to be assertive right now because I'm pissed off. It's down the line when I'm missing him that it gets hard.

He's making a fool of me AGAIN! Or maybe that should read 'I'm making a fool of myself AGAIN!

Thank you Glenda, Carole and Sharon.
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God I'm pissed at him.

I come out fighting and then slump in defeat. He's way stronger than me.

Anyway, think its time for a drink and some music. Anyone care to join me?

Love and Hugs to all
Adele

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I'd love to join you if I could - beep me if you want - Carole xxx

Trust your judgement, Adele.

If you think it's time to ask him the questions you obviously have, then get them asked.

Asking him will prod him into action, and don't accept a brush off.

Good luck hun.

Debbie

I'll go online now Carole. One sec.

Debbie you know better than anyone here how much he means to me. You know him well enough to gauge if I'm being an idiot to stay with him. What do you think?

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You're not an idiot. You are giving.

Leaving him will be hard. He's a big part of your life.

You're obviously having issues. Maybe it's time to ask him if he feels the same.

Debbie

Yeah we're having issues. The issue is he's a prize prick sometimes. x

Merry Christmas sweetheart by the way x

Merry Christmas hun :*

Hugs!

Debbie

Told him I knew. He told me to go away and logged off.

Don't torture yourself anymore with this, Pet - You're just gonna make yourself miserable and you don't need that - I know it's hard but try to occupy your mind with other things xxxx

It's over as far as I'm concerned, Carole. x

Christmas time can be quite a trying time for many people ! However a realationship works 2 ways ! Adele please don't let that Cute Little Pussy suffer ! x

*Smiling* Elizabeth.

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Yer right, like i belive you xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Have You Seen Adele's "Pussy" it's Fabulous Darling ! xxx