#1; dont be a victim

#2; 90% of worrying is utterly pointless, dont believe me? Think....

#3; look on the bright side, and think positive.

#4; we all have the power in us to change anything we like, no matter how big or small those changes.


#5; be loyal, generous and kind to others and it will be repaid tenfold.


#6; there is no such word as "can't", it does not exist, stop using it.

#7; shit happens, deal with it, thats life, move on and learn from the bad things that happen.

#8; live life like there is no tomorrow cos today could be all we have left.

#9; believe nothing, question everything.

#10; cold pizza does not substitute as breakfast!

*takes a bow and exits the stage*

On your death bed you will NEVER wish you spent more time in the office.

haha yeah very true indeed xx

If there is re-incarnation then decide that you will come back as a Dutch woman - they are so clever that they only work part time and enjoy their lives !!!.

About 70% work part time, and part time is more than 1 hr and less than 16 hrs. And they are always in the Top Ten happiest women in the world. Not rich financially but in the quality of their lives.

Read Dutch women don't get depressed..or check out this link

http://thebrowser.com/interviews/ellen-de-bruin-on-women-and-happiness?page=1

hugs
Pauline xxx

Never put off till tommorow what you can do today ! , cos if you do it today and you like it you can do it again tommorow !

<blockquote><strong><a href="/se4/profile/jet777">Jet armstrong</a> said:</strong><br />Never put off till tommorow what you can do today ! , cos if you do it today and you like it you can do it again tommorow !</blockquote><br />

oh thats very good =)

I couldnt work like i used too, all night for 12 hours, 7 days a week, 2 days off a month, all my own choice but i was miserable, hated it, im much happier with my bohemian attitude to work now xx

live life to the full and enjoy it all never hide step out and be proud of who you are and what you are in this life .

Another subject i "can't" coment on as i find i have so many issues with these rules i would only come accross as rude and be missunderstood.

and although i try i can't get out of paying corporation tax

being a victim is destructive, wrrying is destructive, nagetive thinking is destructive, lack f faith in ourselfs is destructive, being mean is destructive, saying I Cant is destructive, i could go on.

Yeah bad things happen, deaths, terminal illnesses, and its right we should get emotional over these things, too right, cry your eyes out, you will feel much better afterwards and hopefully you can come away with something positive, no matter how small that positive is.

I thought of these rules minutes before publishing them after hearing one person moaning, and always maning about other people upsetting them and ruining their day, what poppycock! We ourselves are solely responsible for our emotional reactions to any given event and situation, we all have a choice in how we deal with things, why pity yourself when you can pick yourself up and learn from it? why feel bad just because someone said something nasty, or stupid, or hurtful? Why let others dictate how WE feel?

We all have the power to take control.

ive got no time in my life for misery , if thats how people want to live their lives thats their problem , but dont expect me to give a shit ! im only want happiness in my life , try and bring me down and i will show you the door or walk out of it myself ! your right alex , you got problems then get over it ! as you say hun positive and live your life to the full , apart from the small things that you have to think about , bills , work etc i dont let anything worry me ! , christ im transgender if i worried about the things that people say or do i would have a nervous breakdown in minutes ! xxxxxxxxxxx

will reply tmorrow wjen im, meore choherent, my spellings get bad now so ilkl quir while im ahgeadxx

And we have the power for all to take control!!!!

Ditto marianne, though the word Power scares people, assuming its a masculine quality, but id rather feel powerful than pained any day. Power does not have to mean being domineering or controlling, but assertive and strong in mind, self and will. It takes a lot of power to be positive, being negative just drains ones power.

Hey, maybe we should start a happy support group here on transtastic? Might just work lol

Thats a good idea Alexandra , we are a pretty supportive bunch anyway , theres no doubt that we look after each other and care about each other , certainly in the short time that ive been here i have heard nothing but positivity and kindness ( granted a few gripes but hey no,ones perfect ) but some sort of group where people can come if they,re feeling a bit down or need advice or just a kindly word or reassurance , yes lets spread a little happiness ! ,," happy happy happy happy talk "

Firstly be aware, of your impact on the world, and thus find joy within yourself in everything you do - never accept someones elses need for conformity and acting your age as your own - spread the light not the dark side of yourself- and never internalise error and beat yourself up- some very good advice on here starting off with Ms * and continued by Pauline, Jet, Jasmine, and Marianne-

The best advice about life I ever had was......... "Dont take yourself too seriously" and "always wash your hands after shaking hands or going to the loo" XXX

Alexandra - I agree - I suppose I meant power in the sense of us taking control of our own world and away from the powers that be.
Glad you find it positive here Jet. It is.
Spot on April - people doing things that don't bring joy does - to coin a phrase - my 'sad in!
And Andrea - I would just add something my mum always said to me as a rider to your words of wisdom - "never lose your sense of humour"!

I meant ' ead (not 'sad!!!!)

Watch someone prove me wrong but I 'Can't' open a tin with a banana lol XXX

Live your passion.
Be responsible for your mistakes.
If you have two beers in the fridge, and one's a nice German stout and the other is a Bud, take the stout, for you may die tomorrow.
Related to that, never be afraid to take the last donut or the last piece of pizza!

never say "I should have,,,,"; say
:"Next time I shall...."

In the words of Monty Python - Always Look On The Bright Of Life!

never squat with your spurs on XXX