Will keep this brief and to the point.

I had anal sex last night with a guy who was quite well built, long and thick. At one point he had to replace the split condom. After 20 minutes i wasn't really feeling it, not turned on, so i told him to stop cos im not really in the mood, i reached down to my anus and found it very slippery and wet. Asked the guy if he came in me, he swore he didnt, so i examined my finger with a light and found lots of blood.

I wiped and wiped but there was lots of it and it totally freaked me out. I am really not good with blood, usually my own blood dont bother me, its usually if i see someone else bleeding that i get freaked out, dunno why, but after seeing all that blood last night i totally lost the plot for a bit, felt terrible afterwards and barely remember driving home.

I know now that he didnt cum inside of me, and im so thankful i stopped it when i did, but the blood still troubles me.

Is it normal to bleed so much after anal? Its not my first anal experience, and i have never bled like that before so im very confused, any good advice? And yes, i am seriously considering no more anal sex!

bleeding is not that uncommon Ali but either way I'd get down to your STD clinic and get the rectum checked for small tears which can get infected, Also get an cross spectrum STD check anyway, for peace of mind. To be honest I never take the word of a man about whether he's cum or not! its a bit like "yeah the cheques in the post"!! It can take a while to relax your sphincter to allow a big penis to penetrate you and there's lots of other factors like small heamarroides both internal and external to consider which can bleed a little. The most important thing is absolutely not to panic!!! but just go get medical peace of mind! over the years I've had guys take of the condom while I'm on all fours and happily fill me without me knowing till afterwards luckily each time they havent had a major STD or HIV.
We girls just need to be cautious take precautions look after our bodies and only believe yourself or a good doctor on any issues that affect your body!!! but again Ali dont panic!
hugs Andrea
p.s. dont give up anal it really is very satisfying, although after a scare like that it does make you feel very unsexy!! give me a shout if there's anymore info that might be useful.
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p.s. sorry everyone if this entry sounds a bit raw but when it comes to our bodies and sex there's no room for primness or social niceties! ........lets all be knowelgable and safe and caring about each other!!
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Thank you Andrea, im definitely gonna get checked out, though now i am pretty sure the guy didnt cum and still had the condom on cos he had no blood on him at all, just the protection.

Definitely feel unsexy, was quite traumatic but im a bit more less traumatised now i have been t the toilet and found no blood mixed with my poo, which was a worry, usually im pooing the second i sit down but i was quite nervous about what i was gonna find, looked normal though, but im still gonna get checked cos all that blood was just too much for me.

Appreciate you replying to this Andrea, thanky ou xhugzx

you need to remember that the rectum gets a bit traumatised with a large penis pumping in and out.... so the natural peristaltic rythym of the bowl gets a bit interrupted.... so its normal to have a different timing or type of movement pooing after sex, Oh an another tip...... its good to avoid food with nuts or seeds in at least 12 hours or more before anal sex, as the seeds can on rare occasions cause the condom to fail........
and as they say...... take care, huge hugs and dont panic!
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Wow, Alison, sorry about that scare. Hope you're alright. I'm very slow and gentle (though I'm large, and I usually go deep) even with GG's. I'm bisexual because I want to take a large one in me, too. Thanks for this discussion!

I actually nibble on seed and nut mixes at work, or a bombay mix if its with a model i know and dont mind spicey breath from her tog, i eat a lot of them in my diet, so never really thought about them ripping a condom open, i wonder if thats why i bled? I always leave anal sex at least 8 hours after going to the toilet, could never do it after a dump lol im more relaxed now, though, not so paniky =o) xxx

Ali i hope ur ok. I too bleed from time to time after anal its because the wallsof the rectum can get torn very easily even just streching them with a large cock can be enough to do it. Best to get checked out tho. And andrea thanks for the advice on nuts etc never thought about that but make perfrct sense a tip i will defo follow before sex in future.

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Ali really sorry to hear about your problems, and i hope you are getting over them. P xxx

This is probably a good area to post this article which is from todays Observer about the rape of men in war. I warn you before you read the link that its very horrifying, and i for one was not aware that its so widespread.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/jul/17/the-rape-of-men

Its a bit too early for me to read that article Pauline but ill go back to it later on today.Definitely feeling better, even went clubbing last night for a change, in my home town, i should add, which i have not done for about 17 years, its no different and reminded me why i dont go out in my home town. But definitely feeling less traumatised, just angry with myself really, was stupid to even get to that point.

Still, i have learned something from this, could be a blessing xxx

Thanks Pauline for the article which is harrowing, pitiful and frightening! ......I am very lucky ot have managed to avoid outrite rape but there have been a number of occasions when I have been forced unwillingly to have sex with men I knew and experienced that awful feeling as you cross the boundary of personal control into being largely helpless...... Because I was used to anal sex I managed to control myself enough to avoid any serious physical damage, but it leaves you depressed and suspicious of people for sometime afterwards!
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one of the great things about this site is the chance to get honest and forthright help and advice from other girls and to spread info and experience around us as a community!

One problem for anyone is that in the rectum are the Haemorhodial Arteries which can bleed quite profusely if irritated.
They also absorb things directly into the blood stream, which is why Doctors and Nurses often administer medication, i.e., Diazepam 5mls (Valium) in the case of an event of consecutive Epileptic Grand Mal (Tonic/Clonic) Seizures. So be careful. Oh yes I am a retired Psychiatric Nurse of some 30 odd years!

I thought I could hear the snap of a latex glove behind me Rachel!!!
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It's ok ANdrea I have retired now...LOL. But I still have my gloves and thermometer...LOL.
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that sounds like fun!!! R
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this book is a good source of help!!!

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Couples/dp/0940208377/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&qid=1310930405&sr=8-7

check it out
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Thanks girls for all the helpful and honest comments. I have some similar problems sometimes, especially if, in the heat of the moment, I neglect to make sure I am properly and exuberantly lubed to the max !!

By the way, a favourite girlfriend of mine on here recommends Extra Virgin Olive Oil ?

And thanks Andrea ! I have ordered the "Anal Pleasure ..." book online and can't wait to get some positive info on the best ways to enjoy one of our most erotic and erogenous "passages to joy", to misquote a Thomas Mann title. ????

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Very much sorry !!! It was Thom Gunn an English poet who wrote "Passages of Joy."

Thomas Mann wrote "Death in Venice." !!!
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OMG Nicky, I just about fainted.

Sorry Nicky, in my swoon, I saw that it was Alison that posted this first.

Jasmine

GunnMann, makes you wonder?

Well "Death in Venice" is a book and a film starring Dirk Bogarde ??? about a mature man lusting over a feminine adolescent boy ... It is very good if you care to google ...

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I love the film Nicky..... it is very erotic!! its so full of good old fashioned yearning!
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You should also look up Tristan Taormino, a sex-positive anal sex expert (and aficionado). You will find her most entertaining!

Yeah TT is great