I've seen a couple of short, brief cries for help on here recently. I've responded to them, but if I'd been a fraction of a second later on the feed, i'd have missed them in the swamp of likes for scantily clad girls.

Now, the pictures of the girls are pretty, but as a community, we need to spot the signs that people need help and step up to the mark.

Or am I being naive, and I should just get on with hitting like on as many pics as possible?

Debbie
This post was edited by Deborah Taylor at October 5, 2013 10:08 PM BST

Nope - not naive.

Lots here do like to post albums and pix and get "likes" and positive comments. After all if you are in the "closet" then you won't get too many compliments from anyone except the other denizens of Narnia. And getting feedback on photos of you is validation of a kind, and helps in a small way ...maybe???

Since we instigated the "like" facility for articles and blogs as well as photos - they get on to the main page too, which means people may at least read them as well as just scrolling through pix. It doesn't matter how many likes you make on the main feed as it will only ever show three - it may temporarily show more but goes back to default. Its there to stop anyone person hogging the main feed.

When there are cries for help many people step up and offer constructive advice and support - from what I have seen so far. And it's rare if a cry for help does get lost in the stream of mini skirts. If I haven't been on line for a while then I scroll down the main feed to see what is new - to check for cock wavers and for cries for help.

To be honest that is all any of us can do, as we all lead lives away from Transtastic. Yes its not perfect - but I happen to think that many here are like me and do try to help when they can.

Pauline xxxx

I completely understand and agree, Pauline.

I shouldn't post when pissed squared (pissed up and pissed off).

In the cold light of sobriety, I am naive, I want the world to be a better place.

Carry on.

Debbie

Hey Debbie

Your point is still very valid - and some cries do slip the cracks. That's life, they always will. Being sober wont change that...will it??

And sometimes too when we have had a couple of snifters we make comments "in vino veritas", and they are still valid the day after. As long as you are not driving (or moderating here) that's OK, isn't it?

Wanting the world to be a better place and more tolerant and caring seem pretty good goals to me. I do my little bit here, as do many others, to help those who are on the first steps out of Narnia; or help those who have real issues with their partners over their dressing. Sometimes all any of us can do is listen; though I know that there is a sort of "hidden network" where girls get advice in a 1 to 1 basis from several people here. Plus Aunt Audrey is there to help ( and does help) on a confidential basis.

If you liken being a Tgirl to being a child then an adolescent and then mature then these are stages we go through....and hopefully those of us who have staggered through those stages can say - try this not that and even if our advice is not great its the best we can do.

hugs

Pauline xxx

i am always open to any advise and will proffer some myself if valid. And may i say sometimes a truer word is spoken when a little tipple has been taken lol x x x

Debbie if you are naive then carry on being so. The world needs naive people like you. In my opinion!
Linda x

I'll have a little tipple this evening and see what pearls of wisdom I can regret in the morning!

Debbie

Your just great the way you are girlfriend, cheers to you xxx

Problem is that while we are not an advice site there are people here who need advice. They will not always get it but the rule of thumb should be if we come across someone who needs support there are a good number of people here who selflessly offer which is great. And as for drinking - some of my best lines are fuelled by the demon!!!! xxx

We are here to help each other, whatever the circumstances may be.
Some have it good, some have it bad, speaking from experience.
I'm here to help anyone, and will do my level best to give the answer you need.
M xx

I think most if not all of the active members of this site strive to be good neighbours. We listen and only give advice when necessary. This is how it should be. Sometimes the call for help is missed in the noise of everyday life. But that happens whatever systems are in place. For some the recognition of their pictures is help while for others it is just plain noise.
I am proud to be one of the members of this site and in awe of many of the people on here. And long may that continue.

god bless you all xxx

it is hard at times to spot the cries for help with all the post comments likes and dare i say Knob shots

but every one should know and if they dont we must make sure they do that they can ask message any one of us it may be an idea to start a group a QnA group if people need advice

we do have our fab aunt audrey to but i think we need to broadcast it more
if you have a problem and no one can help call the "A team" (sorry bad pun) but our audrey is here and as i said we all are

all together now

"we're all in this together" ok what about

dada da daaaaaaaaa da da da daaaaaaaaa

so come on girls if ya need us we are here

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

xxamyxx

and come to think about it we all can be shallow or vain with pic posting we just all need to keep an eye out for each other when we can xxxxxx

Sometimes people are trapped with there own problems so don't notice others . We all have our own demons but this at times seem harder to notice in others . Lovely post Debbie and keep being you with all think its great xxx

I just can't believe i've missed this forum until now? Looking through the post's they are all valid, and friends who join in on other platforms as a community should be able to identify when people and friends need help, i'd like to think that i've been there in the past and with the help of others i sincerely hope to be able to do this in the future.
Hugs
Liz xxx