Even though I've been into T... girls for as long as I can remember there are only a few people that know how I feel. I often get into relationships with GG girls and spend the whole time in fantasy thinking about what I really want. After a few years of flings I got tired of searching for the right person and gave up. I would ideally like to be open as possible and have this person in my life as much as any girl I would intend to be with but, would only let the cat out of the bag if I was certain it would be more than someone getting their fix or a complete headcase.

For anyone that has found that person, what are your opinions on being public about it and having these people attend events etc? I know my family would be OK with it but, what about everyone else?

Hiya Joshua, and Welcome to Transtastic!

Well you have certainly come to the right site if you want to chat and ask question's, there's lot's of help and support here from a huge spectrum of individuals.

I noticed on your profile that you have been into the scene for quite a while, probably longer than i have to be honest, but here on Trans everyone is made to feel welcome, although some choose to feel they are not by one thing and another, on the whole it's quite a good community!

I have found that person in my life - in my wife Sharon. We have been together 27 years this year, more than man and wife, we are best friends too, we don't have any secrets from one another, and in my opinion the best way to be if longevity is what your after in your relationship.

I came out to my Daughter and her partner last year, the week after her 21st birthday, and to my mum and mother-in-law, a week or so later, although, nobody has to know really what your life style is - that's personal choice, not everybody will understand your desire, but hey it's your life, as long as no one is getting hurt by what your doing and everybody consents to it - go for it!

Going public somewhat, so to speak was probably one of the best things i did myself, although not to everyone's taste it's something that we enjoy to do has a couple, and have made quite a few nice friends on here, and in real life, with the odd get together from time to time, we go to Manchester now and then, and meet the odd girls socially in drab sometimes, for brews and chats and the odd beer of course.

Hope you find what your looking for on here - and enjoy your experience, and don't forget, Tell your friends about Transtastic ! it is really a good site.

Hugs

Elizabeth (Liz) xxx
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Thanks for the reply Liz,

It's great you have a wife that understands. even better that everyone else seems ok with it too. Bet you were relieved? So does your wife see/ help you dress?

Yes I've been into this kind of thing since someone once sent me a video on my mobile almost a decade ago and it was a transexual straddling a man and as much as I laughed about it I really really liked it. That got me interested in seeing what was out there and I went through many websites and finally started meeting people. My first person was actually a guy as a guy and we did pretty much everything there was to do but, it really wasn't me. Then I met up with quite a few girls from crossdressers to pre-op transexuals and in one instance a post op but, they all seemed to either be really tapped or I just didn't fancy them enough.

Once I'm with the right person I think I'll probably tell my family and then just see how it goes from there. I have a friend who likes guys as guys and even though our kinks are different we still can chat about anything so he is the only person who isn't in the scene that knows. This is why I don't meet many people in real life, just online.

I'm excited about making a choice to literally grab what I want from life and not worry about anything else. I'm quite excited.

Thanks again Liz.xxx