In Richard Beard's book,'Becoming Drusilla' there is a quote from Robert Burns,

'O wad some Power the giftie gie' us,

To see oursels' as others see us.' Robert Burns.

To which Dru' had added,

'The giftie would be greater far,

If only others others, saw us as we really are.'

I think this must be an observation felt by many in the TG community, as well as some in the wider society. It's certainly true of me? Perhaps not true of everyone?

I wondered if others had any observations or constructive comment to make on this?

I would just add, that whilst I'm not yet old enough to be wise, I am old enough to be philosophical.Which means I'm still learning to be to live with my own stupidity...

Although, I tend to like people for who they are, not what they are.

So with me,it's case of,'love the person first, then the gender' no matter their race, class or gender.

I can't remember the saying and can't seem to find it any place, but it was about if we could read other peoples thoughts about us, we'd probably top ourselves within a week. Obviously it was far more eloquently put than that lol

It is hard to see someone as they really are, but I don't think we're capable of showing all our faces straight off the bat. It can take a long time for us to reveal our strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities...our insanity. It's a slow process and can be wondrous or very disappointing if you build someone up in your head and don't keep a check on reality.

Most of the mistakes are made in our own heads about who a person is, not by that person being deceptive. We're very adapt in the initial phases of a relationship of building them up to impossible heights only to be disappointed when the rose tinted glasses slip.

We shouldn't start pulling that person apart because we fooled ourselves of their brilliance in our own little fantasy world created in our heads and hearts.

Does that make sense?

Adele
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This post was edited by Deleted Member at January 13, 2013 4:16 PM GMT

Pulled out a few quotes from a link I just found, that seem to fit on this thread:

"The only normal people you know are the ones you don’t know very well."

"Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person you are."

"You will never become who you want to be if you keep blaming everyone else for who you are now."

"People are more what they hide than what they show."

"When you choose to see the good in others, you end up finding the good in yourself."

Always new i was normal, to quote!!!!!!!!
me take me as i am, or the door is other there