Ive already been chatting to a few people on this site so thought I should take the time to properly introduce myself. My chosen name is Aimee, im 29 and am currently living in Cardiff where I have been for the past 9 years. Before that I used to live in Deeside, North Wales.

I used to find dressing to be very compulsive when I was younger, I really couldnt help myself. When I moved to Cardiff I tried to put a stop to it and was doing well. I moved in with my gf and have lived with her for 8 years. I started getting the thoughts again though, walking past shops admiring dresses out the corner of me eye, until last year I thought im turning 30 soon and I dont want this to be a regret. Since then ive got some of my own wardrobe which is hidden away in the house and dress fairly regular when my gf is not about. Im getting to the point though where I do want to get out now as Aimee but have not had the opportunity to yet I have to factor in the fact I cant do my own makeup at the moment although I am eager to learn.

Im a DJ & Music Producer in my spare time, I love electronic music with a harder edge like Hard Techno, Drum & Bass, Breakcore, etc but also love a bit of Trance, Trip Hop and a artists I can only really categorise as Electronica. Artists like Amon Tobin (im a huge fan), Trifonic and Trentemoller.

Hi Aimee,

I just wanted to say, yes for me it was the same in some respects of re-awakening myself. Can I ask, How does your Gf view the whole Tg world? Have you tried to see what her reaction to Cd's are yet? Sometimes testing the water with a few questions can really help wether she would be accepting to it, or you never know, she may already suspect you, has she asked you anything that maybe you didn't realise she was asking? I know that may sound strange, but I remember before I came out, my wife was actually testing me by having me do beauty regimes and she said she had her suspicions as to why It seemed second nature for someone like me at the time to be able to apply make on her like I had been doing it all along.

I think a lot of us have probably been through similar, years of denial before realising its a part of who you are. I havent actually turned round and asked her views on the TG world, im not sure how you would bring up that conversation without some kind of lead in.

I have seen her reaction once to a TG person, we were in a lift in an apartment block and this TG woman came in dressed to the nines, and after she had left the lift my gfs reaction was not a very positive one. She was laughing and saying 'oh my god' and stuff like that. Now I know shes not that judgemental and that kind of reaction was probably just down to not having seen anything like that before but I cant say for sure.

I doubt she does suspect, part of the problem is ive dug myself a little hole here. Ive spent a long time in denial of this so anything that could even remotely indicate I might have feminine tendancies I avoided.

You sure are lucky to have a wife that understands and even helps, im jealous!