Was in Leeds for the Light Leeds event on Friday 3/10 and realised it was First Friday so later went down Briggate to have a look for the first time. There I was with girls all around but me being pathetic with my desires only represented by mascara and underwear and tights. Have to bite the bullet soon or live my life with regret always.

Dee

We both know the answer here Dee,get yourself to the next one in a dress

Fiona,
Thanks for commenting. Of course I know the answer, but I always look for alternatives before facing up to what was blindingly obvious all the time
Dee

It's a big (very big) step Dee, but once you have done it, you will wonder what all the fuss was about. Leeds is a good place to take those first steps, there are bars all close to each other so if you find you don't like where you are you can easily try somewhere else. Devon x

Thanks Devon
I think my problem is that as a guy I went into a bar to meet someone or just in transit (waiting for a train etc) and I was not wanting to meet someone.
If I go in a bar/club en femme I will feel so out of it if no-one speaks to me and if everyone is in pairs or groups, I will feel inhibited about approaching them. I am not going to be "picked up" at my age.
I think my fear is that if I venture out and it is a lonely or unpleasant experience, I will never try again.
Dee

Dee
I fully understand your position. I went out to Leeds and Sheffield twice on my own and it is very lonely. But the positive side was I was out as Devon and it was worth it. But I kept looking and chatting on this site and found someone to go out with.
We met up and went out in Birmingham last month The meeting going out in Manchester tomorrow.
It is possible and you will do it
Keep smiling
Love
Devon

Hi Dee this is a very good blog for every tgirl to follow because I had the very same feelings as we ALL do , but at the moment your' fear ' is greater than your 'need ' to go out . This will change and the 'need' will be greater that the ' fear ' , at this point you will step out because of your NEED !! Hope this makes sense Dee , maybe it is a bit profound , but that's the way I had to be honest with myself when it was my time !!

Dee,

You could still go to LFF like last time in semi drab. And why not have a look at who went to the last LFF from here - contact them and see if they are going to the next one. Fiona is right - at some stage you need to go in a dress - and its never too late (ever) to make those first steps.

In the meantime if you ever cross the Pennines to Manchester there is always Drab Drink Oop North which is the first Thursday of every month. The next one is 6th November and we always meet in the centre of Manchester - about 10 mins walk from Piccadilly station. Some months there are 5 or 6 of us , we have been as many as 12 - we meet in drab (that is trannys as blokes and women as women) so its a good starting point.

Dee there are lots of us her who can help you make those first steps and are happy to give advice. All of us made those first steps you are taking and it does get easier.

If you need private advice then just ask me or Devon or any of the girls who have contributed so far to your thread.

hugs

Pauline xxxxx