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• Posted by Deleted Member April 19, 2013 837 views
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  WOW, a second blog inside a week. . .

   

  I write this as a way to aplogise for my first blog, I know it may have come across as offensive or naive, but it wasnt intended and I realise that some people did get offended and I will apologise now just as I will for any future blogs that may come across like that, Its just my no nonsense approach to life really. I was just purely asking a question to see what individual opinion was because when I entered the TG scene a few years back, there was this whole "lemmings" attitude, like the 1960's mod "we look alike, so we have to think alike" and "OMG, that is sooo me" 

   

  I went to a club a few years ago and chatted to various TG's and each of them seemed to be a carbon copy almost word for word in there life experiences, I was on the other hand looked on like the dog just puked on the carpet because nothing I said mirrored thier life and I was basically shunned for "Being different" Over the last few years, I have left scenes and re joined, basically to see if attitudes to TG within the communities have changed and alot has changed, even me, and I like to meet people with different views and to be able to disagree instead of just paying lip service because we look alike, because thats how you meet true friends. A true friend will tell you if something is wrong and will be honest to let you know if that looks terrible. and a poser is just someone who will no matter what you do, will say everything you do is the right choice. I would rather have a friend tell me before than just stay silent and then end up saying "Why didnt you warn me?"   Dont get me wrong, its very boosting when friends say something nice, its just a little disheartening when you know it isnt true. We in the trans world know that confidence by compliment is one of those boosts we crave and need, but just as a word of advice, if you think something is wrong, tell the person if you value thier friendship, they will thankyou for it. I personally have not had this problem with friends, and thats not my reason for writing this, but have born witness to it on various sites. The friends I have will tell a person straight, and thats why we are friends, I know one or two would say my first blog was to overbearing in its composition, which is why I know it came across in the wrong way and will acknowledge it.

   

  Well I think I will end it there, but as I said, dont just be a friend, be a true friend