Blending

• Posted by Deleted Member March 1, 2013 #  #passing  852 views
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  When I first started transition, I had a wonderful group of other girls who helped me find my feet and who helped to build up my confidence during those early days.

   

  Simple things like getting me out and about shopping, clubbing and even just going out for a coffee all helped a confused, insecure, frightened new girl, to develop into the strong, confident, determined, some might say arrogant person that I am now, and to them, I will always be eternally grateful.

   

  They gave me such valuable, and in many cases, obviously simple advice on how to present myself out in the big bad world and to make a success of the girl that I was slowly becoming.

   

  I'm was advised, that voice coaching isn't as essential as many make it out to be since you consider that as you go about your day to day business you are unlikely to actually have any verbal exchange with the majority of people you encounter on a day to day basis, and for this reason "deportment" or "body language", are far more important for girls who wish to pass successfully.

   

  Now, we all like to get glammed up but like everything else there is a time and a place for wearing particular outfits and make up looks.

   

  What might be accepted at Sparkle in daytime, probably wouldn't serve you well while walking through the streets of Glasgow or any other major citywhen you are attempting to pass successfully.

   

  Therefor, one of the best phrases I have ever heard is "Urban Camoflage" or "dressing to blend in."

   

  Whether you are out and about every day like I am, or out and about in drab, have a look around you at what girls are wearing at that particular time and consider dressing in an appropriate manner for where you are likely to be at a particular time.

   

  For example, in a city centre in daytime during business hours, smart, casual or smart casual is the order of the day after all who is going to look twice at another girl in a business suit during office hours, or in jeans or other everyday wear.

   

  Also, if you must wear heels, then make sure that they are something you can walk in comfortably since a girl stumbling up the street in heels she is unable to walk in, may attract peoples attention, some of which could be unwelcome.

   

  When in a restaurant or cafe/bar, take a look at women and note their body language, how they sit, how they hold a knife and fork, how they hold a glass or a cup of coffee, it really is invaluable.

   

  Now we come to the issue of voice training and yes it does have it's merits but it is not the be all and end all when it comes to passing.

   

  After all, if your deprotment still screams "bloke in a frock" then it doesn't matter how feminine you your voice sounds, you are not going to pass successfully, and when you consider that the majority of people you will encounter on a day to day basis while out and about you will never have any vocal intercourse with, you're likely to just be passing them in the street or sitting in the same cafe/bar without actually talking to them, then it is clear that it is an issue of less importance and more a piece of fine tuning to add a little polish to the final look.

   

  As a guitarist, I think about it this way.

   

  Consider a piece of music such as Richard Wagners' "Ride of the Valkyrie." Yes a Violinist could play the melodies and it would be possible to recognise the piece. However, it is only when all the other sections of the orchestra combine with the strings, that it all comes together and it then becomes the amazingly powerful wall of sound that we all can recognise of such a classic piece of music.

   

  Passing isn't about a single element, it is like blending the ingredients to produce a fine malt whisky, or the ingredients for the perfect cupcake, and I like to think that I do it quite well although others may argue otherwise.

   

  Now I am now saying for one minute that I have mastered it, I do still very occasionally attract some unwelcome attention, but I like to feel that by combining all the ingredients I have discussed in this blog, that I pull it off quite well.

   

  I am now "big sister" to 17 girls a at various stages of transition, and I am advising them the way my sisters advised me, and I feel so humbled to think that they see me as a role model, and I hope that when they are fully settled into their new lives that they will continue the support work that I gave them, to other girls who come after us.

   

  I realise that we are all different and that different people have different requirements, but the advice I was given has served myself, and many others well, during our transition and our day to day dealings with the "Muggles" out there, so there must be some truth in what they said.

   

  Peace luv an lipgloss

   

  Wolf x