An open letter

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    Jet Alexis Armstrong

     Crawley , Sussex

    Hello.

     Im a very outgoing and generally very happy Transgender lady in the early stages of my transition , life is hard for me ! , ive not only got to put up with people looking at me on the streets , passing comments and sniggering , but ive also got to put up with the fact that my wife of 32 years has turned against me and shows nothing but hatred towards me , and all this whilst dealing with my Transgenderism and the associated problems

    Im fairly passable and indeed a lot of people that I meet don’t actually click , I dress well in fairly youthful clothes and have ( I admit ) a stunning figure and quite incredible legs , I am very well accepted generally by my colleagues and friends and am very popular with the Trans Community , I am frequently asked out .

    I am Asexual and therefore have no interest in sex , my Gender change represents my feelings and not my sexual preference !

    I transitioned full time on december the 24th of 2012 after spending a year dressed only in the house , I had not planned to transition until the end of 2013 however the feelings grew too strong for me to deny , and I began to get suicidal feelings , I spent a year sad and miserable , so I made the choice to “come out “ , whilst it was the best thing that I could have done it has effectively destroyed my life in as much that I have lost the only thing that ever really mattered to me and the only person that I ever truly loved .

    It has been hard for me and I have spent a lot of time sobbing uncontrollably while I have had to watch my wife turn against me , knowing full well that there isn’t a damned thing that I can do about it .

    Yes I am happy that I am who I was always meant to be , yes im happy that I can wear gorgeous clothes , yes im happy that I look feminine and gracefull , I am happy to be who I am , but I am not happy that I have destroyed my Marriage and lost the love of my life .

    There isn’t a moral in this , there cant be because we have to be who we are meant to be , but I will say to those who may be reading this , Think Twice ! be very sure that you are certain that what you are doing is the right thing , don’t destroy your life unless your sure of your feelings .

    Transgenderism is a Bastard !

    Love Jet Alexis xxxxxxxxxxxxx

15 comments
  • Deleted Member Hi Jet thanks for sharing,you are such a lovely person,i'm proud to be a friend to you big hugs xxxx
  • Deborah Taylor I was once told by a smart lady that Needs outweigh Wants. Currently I NEED my family, and WANT to be full time, therefore, I don't take the massive step that you took, and I never will unless I NEED to be full time and WANT my family. I know from...  more
  • Jet Alexis Armstrong Thanks Anniemarie and Deborah for your support you will never know how much friends like you girls mean to me , and that goes for everyone on Transtastic , I cant wait to meet some of you in Manchester later in the year , ( just wished I had known about...  more
  • Deleted Member Hi jet! I also live in crawley too and have noticed it is s very bitter and judgemental town of people! I feel your loss hun and i understand your pain of getting dirty looks! Am way too scared to go out dressed girly but have herd there is a place in...  more